All My Single Ladies

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Ah, the drama of the ellipsis. Why the separation, you may ask? Does singleness exclude the preceding adjectives?

No, it doesn't.

But I think we've come to believe that it does. That somehow singleness undercuts every good thing we have going for us.

Yes, I have a great job, but...

Yes, I have wonderful friends, but...

Yes, I successfully passed by Krispy Kreme when the "Hot Now" sign was glowing, but...

I'm single.

Forget professional fulfillment, popularity, and the ever-evasive discipline required by living around the corner from a donut shop. I don't have a boyfriend, so my quality of life is sub-par.

And not only do I not have a boyfriend, but it seems like everyone AND THEIR MOM is getting married (I realize this euphemism doesn't really work here, but you know what I mean).

Trust me, I get it. This really sucks. Like really, really bad.

No one likes to go through their secret wedding Pinterest board and unpin their pins because they're seeing them be used by people who actually have weddings to plan. 

No one wants their midnight snack to be ruined by the three-deep Save the Date collage plastered to their fridge.

But alas, this is life as we know it. It's temporary, and it's a season, but it's reality.

But it doesn't have to be a bad season. It doesn't have to be tainted by envy, discontent, and the anxiety that you're never going to find "the one."

I think it can be really good. And really fun.

I'm not an expert on the single life. Or on relationships. I'm just a recent college grad in a college town who didn't attend this college and so has no prospects slash can't even reel in a prospect due to her lack of SEC football knowledge. The struggle is real, y'all.

My friend Allie and I (we're both Allie. I know, #confusing) just want to walk through this season with you. Because we're figuring it out and navigating and we don't know what the heck we're doing either. And we thought it'd be fun to record our thoughts and observations and lessons we're learning at the overwhelming plethora of weddings we've been invited to.

So first thing's first. This word "single." 
Let's not say this word like the stenchy stigma it's become. Let's say it like a breath of fresh air. With our hair blowing in the wind and the screech of a bald eagle echoing just beyond the rolling green hills on the horizon. 

Allie and I want you to know that you're not alone, our brave warrior. Many women have gone before you and endured these trying times disguised by silk taffeta and tulle. Wedding season was not created for the faint of heart. In the words of Jordin Sparks, love.... is a battlefied.

xoxo,

A&A